Finally, it looks like winter 2018 is finally behind us. For those of us in the Midwest, we had one last ‘winter storm’ this past Sunday. Hello Spring! With that in mind, we’re at the end of the first quarter of the year. If you are like most people, perhaps at the beginning of the year, you set some New Year resolutions. Yet we know that by the beginning of Spring, more than 70% of resolutions have been broken.
Springtime is the perfect time to take stock of what you have achieved thus far this year.
First of all, it is never too late to press the reset button and revisit your resolutions. That’s because the word “resolution” goes way beyond just New Year.
I looked up the dictionary definition of resolution. It says ‘a firm decision to do or not to do something.’
Let’s take a look at the first part of that statement- a firm decision.
When you’ve made a resolution in the past, be it a New Year resolution or not, was it really a firm decision? Or just on a whim at the end of the year holiday office party? Perhaps you said it because you believed it at the time.
If making a New Year resolution is indeed a firm decision for most people, then why do 70% of resolutions fail by the beginning of spring?
Why do we have such poor results if we are really trying to to make lasting change in our lives?
Do we like to see ourselves fail? Or do we keep making resolutions because somehow we feel inside ourselves that we are destined to succeed?
Having trained as a professional life coach, I believe in the possibility for all people.
I think that we make resolutions because we are drawn to want more in our lives. We are intrinsically wired to be creative
I also feel that that perhaps we need a different set of tools to create those results we say we want in our lives.
Setting Goals as a Tool:
One of the more important coaching tools is the SMART system.
One of the empowering tools when it comes to achieving results is the way we set goals.
A SMART goal is an acronym that stands for
• Results in
You’ve probably heard this before. So let’s say your goal is to do a 5K walk/run this year. You’ve not even gotten off your couch but you feel you want to set this goal.
And now you want to use the SMART goal system to gauge the likelihood that you will succeed.
Here’s an example of what a SMART weight loss goal would look like:
Is your goal to walk a 5K (3.1 miles) specific? –yes it’s precisely 3.1 miles or a 5K
Is your goal to walk a 5K (3.1 miles) measurable?- yes the course will be outlined with distance markers
Is your goal to walk a 5K (3.1 miles) achievable?– yes thousands of people have achieved this goal before, so can you.
When you walk 5K (3.1 miles) will you see the results?- yes, you will gain results from the moment you start training until you cross the finish line at the race.
Do you have a set time to achieve these results?– yes you can choose to run/walk this race in the fall which gives you plenty of time to train.
Write down your goals
Let’s get back to goal setting as part of making a firm decision to do something. You now know to make sure that you have a SMART goal.
The next step is to write down your goals.
More than 80% of people who write down their goals succeed at them.
Commit to having your goals in a visible place and reading them every day. In fact, Napoleon Hill in his famous book, ‘Think and Grow Rich’ wrote about reading your goals out aloud to yourself twice a day- once in the morning and once at night.
Remember that goal setting goes beyond the intellectual exercise. You are priming your subconscious mind to work with you when reading out a goal.
If you want to get a different result, then get an accountability partner.
Another reason people fail at their resolutions is that they do not hold themselves accountable. Change is not easy. A lot of times we need to have an accountability partner to help us keep going along the path of transformation.
That’s precisely why when we make those resolutions, and when the rubber hits the road, we falter and find a reason why we really can’t reach those goals.
Then you become discouraged or even doubt why you made that decision in the first place. Perhaps you’ve been trying to lose weight like I have and the scale just doesn’t seem to be tipping in the right direction or as fast as you want it to. 🙁
This is when you need an impartial accountability partner, such as a coach. A coach is someone who can call you on your stuff and who is not biased. They have no agenda. An accountability partner or a coach should be willing to be that stand for you in those times when you say to yourself perhaps this was not such a great idea after all. That’s the power of a coach.
It’s often said that if you are up to great things in your life, then you need a life coach.
I agree with that. Not merely because I am also trained as a life coach, but because I see the power that coaching has to create a change by empowering people to see much more than what they see for themselves.
So as we embrace the upcoming warmer months of Spring into summer, here are some questions that I have for you:
• Are you tired of doing the same things over and over again and expecting a different result?
• When it comes to your health and overall wellbeing are you up to making 2019 a breakthrough year for you?
• Would you like to play a different game than just making a New Year resolution?
• If you knew you could not fail what dream goal would you like to see manifest in the next 12 months?
Now you may be wondering what all this has to do with managing type 2 diabetes or any other chronic illness. We are inundated with an internet that provides us with tons of information at the ‘click of a mouse.’
If it’s just having access to knowledge, then we should be able to achieve the results we say we want very quickly right? Wrong.
If we do not become aware of how our habits may sabotage us, or the thought patterns that hold us, hostage, we will never produce the results we say we want.
This is one of the reasons why I found coaching to be so transformational and why I am passionate about the power of coaching when it comes to helping clients and patients develop tools which will allow them to make permanent changes.
For a limited time only, I am offering a free 20-minute discovery session. I’d love to hear what you’re up to this year. Just send me an email at firstname.lastname@example.org to check in and let me know what you are up to. If you would like to schedule an appointment simply let me know and a member of my team will get back to you with my availability.
Until next time
To your Health & Wellbeing